Healthy tips that are sure to spice up your love life

Healthy sex is a mental and physical pursuit that sometimes feels as if it should come with a manual. What one man likes may be completely different from what another man likes. Finding the right ingredients for a connected and orgasmic sex life can be difficult.

As a man, it's critical to engage in activities that promote overall health, which affects your sexual health. Reducing stress, eating well, exercising, and avoiding bad habits like smoking and excessive alcohol consumption can help you stay in shape. A healthy lifestyle also boosts your sexual confidence, which isn't a bad thing. When you've mastered the mental side of your sex game, you can concentrate on the physical.

Things you should do for healthy sex

Sex does not have to be like in the movies to be enjoyable. It's up to you and your partner to figure out what turns you on and what connects the two of you. Here are some pointers to help you take your sex life to the next level.

• • Mastering foreplay

• • Masturbation: misconceptions and realities

Mastering foreplay

When it comes to foreplay, the key "triggers" for different people can appear to be very different. If you ask your partner if he wants to have sex and he quickly says no, you may be asking the correct question but using the incorrect words or body language.

Foreplay is all about emotion and desire. It's critical to demonstrate that you want sex with your partner specifically, not just sex in general.

Learn how to communicate with your partner about each of your own turn ons and turn offs. It's important to understand how these categories play a role in your sex lives. Additionally, understanding how quickly you turn on and how quickly your turn off is valuable information.

To learn more about these concepts, check out Emily Nagoski's book, Come as You Are

Masturbation: misconceptions and realities

Masturbation causes your body to produce chemicals that relieve stress and make you feel good. Some people believe that if they are in a relationship, they should not masturbate. First, talk to your partner about how he feels about masturbation and agree on what is and isn't acceptable. Masturbation in front of each other is even attempted by some couples. This can not only teach you about your partner's pleasure zones, but it can also help your partner understand the act.

Other myths about masturbation include that it weakens an erection and that doing too much can harm your penis. While masturbation can injure or chafe the skin, it usually does not cause any harm. The only distinction here is whether masturbation interferes with daily activities or living your life. If you answered yes, there may be a deeper connection between masturbation and you that you should discuss with your doctor.

Also Read More: Sex Therapy: Things you Need to Know

Using the Right Sexual Wellness Products

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Things to avoid for Healthy Sex

Here are some of the things you should need to avoid for a healthy sex:

During the act

When it comes to sex, sometimes the most important don'ts are the easiest to say but the most difficult to understand. However, biology and common sense dictate that the majority of these actions are a no-no when it comes to sex:

Rushing through it or acting as if it were a chore. This is especially true if you're driving and providing your partner with oral sex or other stimulation. Sex is about having fun and taking your time.

Expecting thanks or reciprocation. While it is common to expect to give and receive, it is quite another to demand it. You should not expect applause for engaging in foreplay (even if you didn't want to or did a particularly good job). Do things in the bedroom because you want to, not because you have to or expect a lot of praise.

Other things to avoid

A major no-no in sex is focusing on the end result rather than the journey. Other things to avoid are:

Participating in rough sex or play without communicating with your partner. There are safe words that can indicate when you've gone too far for a reason. If the line between pleasure and pain is crossed, make one.

Allowing distractions to enter. There will be no texting, answering phones, or stopping to check the score of a game.

Using a different name for your partner. This one is self-explanatory.

I am remaining completely silent. From moans to encouraging words, showing your partner you're into it can go a long way.

Conclusion

Sex is an important part of a man's life and health, and getting older shouldn't change that. Communication with your partner is the most important key to a healthy sex life in any decade. The key to better sex is honest, open communication about what feels good, what doesn't feel good, and how you make each other feel. Learning what those are through communication can lead to one of life's greatest joys.